“PEOPLE NOW HAVE TWO LIVES – LIFE I AND LIFE II – AND THEY ARE OVER PREPARED FORLIFE I AND UNDER PREPARED FOR LIFE II, AND THERE IS NO UNIVERSITY FOR THE SECOND HALF OF LIFE.”
- PETER DRUCKER
Many of us are at a point in life where we have achieved some measure of success, we have accumulated more stuff than we probably need, yet there is still something missing. At our most honest moment, we realize that the prospect of spending the rest of our lives accumulating more things, or pursuing career advancement is simply not enough. We want our lives to really count for something, something that will live on long after we are gone. We want to move beyond success to significance. Bob Buford has labeled this stage of life Halftime.
Halftime is a time out, a time to think seriously about one’s purpose in life and draft a game plan for the second half. It’s a time when the quest for success loses meaning, and you ask, “Is this all there is? What next?”
While most Halftimers are not financially independent, they do have options about how they can spend their time, talent and treasure.
“Halftime is a pause in midlife to reflect on what we’ve accomplished, who we have become, and what will matter in the end. It is a point to redirect our time and resources for the second half.”
- Bob Buford
- Discovering Vision:
Is there more to life than my current situation?
- What do I consider eternally significant?
- What on earth would give my life meaning?
- Am I alone in feeling this way?
- How much (stuff, money, advancement) is enough?
- Is what way was my first-half experience a foundation for something more significant in my second-half?
- Guided Reflection:
What are my greatest strengths and core values?
- What am I really passionate about?
- What makes me come alive?
- What is my personal mission statement?
- What role do I play most effectively in an organization?
- What is my spouse thinking about his/her second-half, and what is our vision together?
- Who can come alongside me in this journey and provide wisdom and insights?
- Diverse Exposure:
How can I begin to create the margin in life to explore all that I feel called to do?
- How do I prepare my family and myself for this transition?
- What responsibilities do I have to my parents, and how will I leave a legacy through my children and grandchildren?
- In what arena should I serve: the marketplace, my church, my community, or in some very needy area of the world?
- How do I begin to find service opportunities that fit me?
- What unique configuration of family, work, recreation and service best fits what I feel called to do?
-Should I stay engaged in my business with new parameters on my time and a renewed sense of purpose?
- How should I manage and structure my financial situation to live out my calling for the second-half of my life?
- Enduring Impact:
How do I decide between the serving opportunities I have been experimenting with? Should I create a portfolio of serving roles?
- Does this work environment give me energy? Do I need a different office arrangement, different support structure, more or less variety, etc.?
- Based on the work I have done so far in my second-half, what is my highest and best contribution?
- Is this working with my financial situation? What adjustments do I need to make for this to be sustainable?
- Am I growing closer to God and to those I love as I pursue a second half of eternal significance?
Three Issues to Solve for: The “3 C’s”
To live a life of significance is to give yourself away, but not just anywhere. The Bible makes it clear that you were created by God in a unique way (see Psalm 139) and that he has a specific assignment for you to do. Ephesians 2:10 says “For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which he prepared in advance for us to do.”